I came across this tweet the other day which really struck me.
‘It just occurred to me that many people are actually afraid to heal because their entire identity is centred around the trauma they’ve experienced. They have no idea who they are outside of trauma and that unknown can be terrifying.’
Sometimes events occur and they end up changing the entire course of your life. Obviously that makes it incredibly difficult to move on and not identify yourself with what happened. But what I’ve found to be most helpful is to move on. To stop dwelling over your brokenness. To stop letting it control you. To stop thinking about the past and what could’ve been. Whilst on one hand I think it is important to talk through things and to express your emotions to someone you trust, there ultimately needs to be a balance. I hate it when people constantly ask me how I am because all it does is remind me that there’s something wrong with me. I know that they come from a place of love but it can be so frustrating when you’re desperately trying to break free from your problems.
Find things that help you take your mind off. Take up a new hobby, read books, do some soul searching. These are all things that I never had the time to slow down to do in the past, and now I have so many new-found interests. Try to look at it from a positive point of view, even if it sounds extremely unconvincing to yourself right now. But I am a true believer that whatever you put most thought and energy in will eventually manifest in life.
It is definitely much easier said than done. I’ve been there. I’ve felt stuck and trapped. I know what it’s like when life seems to have no meaning anymore. Even just thinking about it makes me emotional. But you can’t let it take over. There is so much more to life. As long as you’re open to it, even the smallest things will seem like the greatest miracle you’ve ever witnessed. So to those who are fighting, stay strong. Keep your head up and heart open.