Body Shaming.

I have dealt with body image issues my entire life. Not once did I ever feel comfortable in my own skin. Not when I was overweight; not when I was underweight. My body has been through a lot, but it never failed to keep me alive. Every second of everyday, my heart keeps on pumping blood through my veins; my legs allow me to walk from one place to another; I can see and do so many amazing things thanks to my body. But I failed to see this the whole time.

I’ve blamed society for creating unrealistic expectations for adolescence today. I’ve blamed the people around me for pointing out my size when I was a kid as if it’s a bad thing. I’ve blamed myself for letting all of this happen. But now I know that if it weren’t for all those things, I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t be able to rejoice on the fact that I feel the most confident I ever have in my body right now. The best part is that I’m not even what society deems as ‘perfect’. I’ve learnt that I will always be dissatisfied with myself no matter what if I continue to seek approval from external sources. I’ve learnt that what other people think has no value to me. They’re probably too busy thinking about themselves anyway.

I could go on about how brainwashed we all are when it comes to body shaming. How we allow whoever it is to tell us that thin=good and fat=bad. How bigger people are immediately assumed to be lazy, indulgent and greedy people. How we look down on them like they’re somehow less worthy than others just because of their size. I remember when I was 10, I told my friend that I’ve never spoken to this other girl in our class. She asked ‘Why? Is it because she’s fat?’. I remember thinking how I need to lose weight when I was 5, in kindergarten. I remember how every single adult that met me for the first time would say my baby fat would go away once I get older. I remember pinching on my belly fat, wishing I could cut it off with a knife. These things haunt you for life.

My point is, I wish we could stop obsessing over external appearances and start realising that there is so much more to life. The moment I stopped worrying about my weight was the moment I started living again. I wish dieticians would stop saying harsh things to patients when most of them have been thin their whole life and have no idea what it’s like to live as a bigger person in a world that glorifies thinness. I wish doctors would actually treat an obese person’s disease instead of telling them they need to lose weight. Most importantly, I wish people would stop putting labels on people based on their appearance.

Everyone has their own struggles. This is mine.

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The 10 Best Things in Life

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1. When you and your best friend happen to say the same thing at the same time.

2. When a book is so good that you stay up to read no matter how tired you are.

3. Getting into bed after a long and tiring day.

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4. Watching the sun rise on a beautiful morning.

5. Accomplishing something that you feel extremely proud of.

6. Cuddling an animal. Extra points if it’s fluffy.

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7. Listening to the sound of waves crashing onto the shore.

8. Reading something that resonates with you completely.

9. Seeing amazing people around you succeed when you’ve believed in them all along.

10. Being able to look back in life and remind yourself how far you’ve come.

Weekly Snapshot 24.01.18

Quote of the Week

“Don’t surrender all your joy for an idea you used to have about yourself that isn’t true anymore.”
― Cheryl StrayedTiny Beautiful Things

Beautiful quotes like this makes my heart sigh. It’s like knowing that everything is ok and that you’re not crazy for feeling the way you are.

I was caught up in thinking how the past me would judge the current me so badly because I am so far from where I thought I would be now. But then my friend reminded me that people change and that’s ok. My 19 year old self had no way of knowing how my life would play out for the many years to come. Change is uncomfortable but I’m getting comfortable with the discomfort.

 

Book of the Week

Inward by Yung Pueblo

I admit, I have slightly cheated with this because it’s more-so a collection of poems than a book, which makes it an incredibly quick read. Nevertheless, I still wanted to share this since it is filled with gems of wisdom.

I’ve followed Yung Pueblo on Instagram for a while now. Not sure how I stumbled upon his work, but he is definitely an underrated poet on social media. All of his poems include messages that every single one of us need to hear right now. Here are a few of my favourites from his Instagram feed.

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Photo of the Week

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This is a prime example of how I like to take photos of weird things. There was a gorgeous view of the ocean right on the other side of this. But no, I decided to turn around and take this instead. My favourite thing about photography is being able to show the beauty in things that people usually disregard.

 

Sonf of the Week 2

Gold Digger – Kanye West and Jamie Foxx

This is extremely random and completely unlike me. The song literally just came up as I was listening to an old ‘favourites’ playlist of mine on the way to the gym. It made me smile so I thought I’d put this in.

That is it! Have an awesome week everyone!

5 of My Favourite Vegan Recipes

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1. Easy Baked Tofu – Domestic Superhero

Of course I had to start out with a tofu recipe. I always used to just pan-fry tofu which is obviously very bland and plain. But most recipes that I see are super elaborate and includes many odd ingredients that I don’t have, which I’m not a fan of. Whereas this only includes a handful of ingredients, all of which I happened to have at home (apologies if you don’t). It’s also quick and easy to throw together, which is perfect for me. In fact, I’m pretty sure I made this at least once a week the first month I stumbled upon it.

Note: This recipe calls for some honey, which can be easily substituted with maple syrup or agave nectar for a vegan version.

2. Sweet and Sour Tofu – Pickled Plum

Another tofu recipe, I know, but I promise this is the last. I thought I had to include this because I made it for a dinner party once and even my friends who don’t usually like tofu enjoyed it! This takes more time and effort, but I think it’s worth it. If you’re a fan of Chinese Sweet and Sour Pork, you’ll probably like this too.

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3. Quinoa Vegetable Soup – Cookie and Kate

Winter means soup weather for me. I love hearty, chunky vegetable soups on chilly evenings. This soup in particular is extra filling since it includes quinoa and legumes to keep you from getting hungry after 10 minutes (which is what usually happens to me). It’s also a great way to try cooking quinoa if you’re not a fan of using it to replace rice. I made this in my slow cooker, but you can also cook it on the hob if you prefer.

Note: Feel free to mix up the ingredients! Switch out the quinoa for rice or pasta; use vegetables that are available or in season; add lentils instead of chickpeas. Get creative with it!

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4. Coconut Red Lentil Dahl – Running on Real Food

Another warming food for the colder months. I never really knew how to cook lentils and make them taste good, until I tried this recipe. It’s surprisingly easy to make and doesn’t include too many difficult to find ingredients. This is the perfect dish to batch cook and save the leftovers for the rest of the week. It tastes great with rice or on its own.

5. Raw Brownie Bites – Detoxinista

I had to include something sweet here. I’ve a massive chocoholic, and this definitely curbs my sweet tooth. Again, it only uses simple ingredients, most of which you probably already have. These brownie bites are easy to make, and they’re another treat you can make a bunch of to store in the fridge for whenever you need a chocolate fix.

I hope you try out some of these recipes, and let me know in the comments if you do! Have fun cooking!

Liebster Award

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I’ve actually been nominated quite a while ago… aka probably nearly a month now. I don’t really have an excuse other than me being lazy. BUT I’m finally getting to it and it’s better late than never right…?

So I was actually nominated by two amazing fellow bloggers, Girl with the Paw Print Tattoo and Mental Health at Home. Thank you so much for nominating me and being so supportive!

What is the Liebster Award?

Liebster in German means sweetest, kindest, nicest, dearest, beloved, lovely, kind, pleasant, valued, cute, endearing, and welcome. The award was discovered for bloggers to promote and support each other’s work. Check out The Global Aussie’s post for more information on the award.

Rules of the Liebster Award:

  1. Acknowledge the blog that gave it to you and display the award.
  2. Answer 11 questions that the blogger gives you.
  3. Give 11 random facts about yourself.
  4. Nominate 11 blogs and notify them of their nominations.
  5. Give them 11 questions to answer.

Now onto the questions!

  1. Why did you start blogging?

I started blogging because I had been doing a lot of writing at the time. I was going through quite a bit, and my form of outlet was through words. I would literally pour my heart out onto the page (or screen) and let it go. At the beginning, I was just using them as super long captions on Instagram. But eventually I thought it deserved more than just acting as decoration underneath a pretty picture, so I started this blog! It just felt right, as cheesy as it sounds, it was like my ‘calling’. I’ve always wanted to create my own thing, whatever it may be, and my friends were extremely encouraging. That was a long-winded answer. I promise the rest will be more concise.

2. What is your favorite movie?

About Time.

3. If you could live anywhere, where would it be?

Ah… There are so many places. Somewhere warm, near the ocean, away from the city, surrounded by trees and nature. Probably Bali or Hawaii, although that seems to be the ‘trendy’ thing to do right now and I don’t like to be conventional.

4. What is your favourite season?

Definitely summer. Firstly because I hate the cold. Secondly, I thrive on sunshine. Give me sun, water, plants, and I’ll be a happy bunny.

5. What is your favourite holiday?

I’ve actually gone off celebrating holidays lately. I guess my family was never big on holidays anyway, especially considering where I grew up. But if I had to choose I’d probably say Christmas because everyone seems to be extra jolly during that period.

6. Dogs or cats?

Do I really have to choose??? I love both, so the only reason I’m choosing dogs is because I like taking walks and having a dog with me would make me look less like a freak.

7. Coffee or tea?

Tea all day everyday! I try to stay away from stimulants like caffeine because I don’t mix well with them.

8. What is your favourite book?

This is a tough one. I’d say The Universe Has Your Back by Gabrielle Bernstein because it opened up a new world to me.

9. If you were only given one meal to eat for the rest of your life, what would it be?

Breakfast. I LOVE breakfast food. Oatmeal, avocado toast, pancakes, waffles… I’m so basic.

10. What is your favourite hobby?

Reading.

11. Who is your favourite band?

Coldplay. I told you I’m basic.

11 Random Facts About Me:

  1. I have a pentagon-shaped birthmark on the inside of my right arm.
  2. I like rubbing fluffy things against my face.
  3. I’m convinced I was a cat in my previous life.
  4. I rubbed a peach against my face when I was 8 and it stung horribly – biggest disappointment of my life.
  5. I have a scuba-diving license.
  6. I grew up in the city but love nature. I guess you want what you don’t have.
  7. I can only sleep in shorts no matter how cold it is.
  8. I’ve been on a kayaking expedition for 4 days and 3 nights.
  9. My dream is to run a farm and an animal sanctuary.
  10. Elephants are my spirit animal.
  11. I have 10 piercings in total.

Nominations:

My Questions for the Nominees:

  1. As a child, what did you want to be when you grow up?
  2. What is your favourite place on Earth?
  3. What is the weirdest dream you’ve ever had?
  4. What is your favourite quote or saying?
  5. What is your biggest pet peeve?
  6. Would you travel to Mars if it was free and safe to do so?
  7. What is your favourite thing about yourself?
  8. What are you most grateful for right now?
  9. What is the first thing you would grab if your house caught on fire?
  10. What are you most proud of doing or achieving?
  11. What is your perfect day like?

Thanks again for the nomination and congratulations to the nominees! I look forward to reading your answers!

Weekly Snapshot 20.01.18

I hope everyone’s had a great week! (By everyone I mean the 4 readers that I actually have.) I personally have had a pretty productive one. Finally beginning to get out of my little blogging rut, but let’s not speak too soon…

Quote of the Week

“The moment you accept yourself, you become beautiful.”

—  Osho

This actually has an interesting story behind it. One day, probably around the beginning of August 2017, I was getting a drink from a local coffee shop. They usually put up inspirational quotes on their wall, but I never noticed it until this one magical day. I was at the beginning of my spiritual journey and I was feeling quite crappy body image wise at the time. Whilst waiting for my drink, I looked up and saw this exact quote from Osho. I think I froze for a minute and smirked because I couldn’t believe how appropriate it was for me. Since then, I’ve read multiple books by Osho, and many more from all the wonderful writers out there in this spiritual realm.  Continue reading “Weekly Snapshot 20.01.18”

Reasons Why You Should Walk More

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I personally think walking is highly underrated. For many people, the first thing that they think of when someone mentions the word ‘exercise’ is the gym. But guess what? Exercise doesn’t always mean you have to sweat your butt of in a stuffy room full of grunting men trying to lift more weight than they actually can. It doesn’t mean hours upon hours on the treadmill. It certainly doesn’t mean you have to suffer. In fact, many alternative healing methods such as Ayurveda and Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM) encourage slow, moderate movement such as walking, yoga, and tai chi.

An easy way to do this is to walk to places instead of travelling by car. If you live in cities like London or New York, you can probably take the Tube or the subway which already involves more walking than driving. Otherwise, most places are within walkable distances. Most of the time in cities with a lot of traffic, it’s even quicker to walk than to take public transport! Continue reading “Reasons Why You Should Walk More”