10 Before 20

As I am approaching my 20th birthday, here are 10 things that I’ve learnt in the past 20 years.

1. We are allowed to dream. But there are times when sacrifices have to be made in order for dreams to come true. It sucks, but you have to follow the rules if you want to win the game.

2. You can read as many philosophical books as you want, but you’ll still be broken if you don’t risk hurting yourself to pick up the shattered pieces. Working through emotions is painful – soul wrenchingly painful. But you gotta do what you gotta do.

3. Yes, other people’s photos may look pretty on the internet. But you’ll never get anywhere if you’re so busy obsessing over their lives that you forget about your own.

4. There is no rulebook for life. So do whatever you want no matter what people say. Own it while you’re at it.

5. You don’t have to be perfect. In fact, trying to be perfect was my downfall, like it has been for so many years. Make mistakes. Heck, make as many mistakes as it takes for you to get to where you want to be. Just make sure you stand back up every time.

6. The words that we have to hear the most can be the most difficult to accept. It’s easy to block out the world, to run away from everything when you’re hurting. But you’ll have to stop and face the truth somehow. It’s only a matter of time.

7. The magic happens in the in between – the grey area. The part where you get a bit of everything. The part where you get to experience all the ups and downs in life.

8. Maybe some of us are destined to be wanderers. We may not have everything figured out. We may not know what we want. But we know to follow our hearts.

9. What we don’t like about other people is usually related to what we don’t like about ourselves. The negative words that we say about others reveal more about ourselves than them.

10. The things that we worry about on a daily basis are extremely insignificant in the grand scheme of things. That plane you thought you might miss? When you worried about how you look in that dress? How many of those things do you still remember today?

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The 10 Best Things in Life

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1. When you and your best friend happen to say the same thing at the same time.

2. When a book is so good that you stay up to read no matter how tired you are.

3. Getting into bed after a long and tiring day.

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4. Watching the sun rise on a beautiful morning.

5. Accomplishing something that you feel extremely proud of.

6. Cuddling an animal. Extra points if it’s fluffy.

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7. Listening to the sound of waves crashing onto the shore.

8. Reading something that resonates with you completely.

9. Seeing amazing people around you succeed when you’ve believed in them all along.

10. Being able to look back in life and remind yourself how far you’ve come.

Weekly Snapshot 13.01.18

Hello my lovelies. I want to start this new ‘series’ where I list out a few of my favourites for the week. I’m not very good at explaining it so just read on…

Quote of the Week

Let it hurt. Let it bleed. Let it heal. And let it go.

—  Nikita Gill

I feel like my subconscious resonated to this quote so much because I just got my wisdom tooth taken out earlier this week. It’s actually funny how relatable it is to my poor gums right now.

Anyway, this quote is incredibly powerful in its simplicity. It focuses on the need for us to heal ourselves and move the heck on. To not dwell on things that no longer serve us. Perhaps that’s a nice reminder for all of us to leave the past behind at the beginning of this new year. Our past does not define us. Continue reading “Weekly Snapshot 13.01.18”

2017.

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As the year comes to an end, I’d like to reflect on all that has happened over the past 365 days. I’ve never been one to treat each new year like it’s a big deal, because like so many other things, it’s only a number after all. However, I have stumbled upon numerous gems this year that I’d like to share with the world.

I think this has probably been the toughest year out of the (nearly) 20 years of my existence. I know I’m young and still have much to learn. I may seem naive and childish to some, but I don’t think a person’s beliefs and opinions should be disregarded due to their age.

I have been lost – and found. Or maybe I am still finding. Only time will tell. Perhaps life is a never-ending journey of discovery; a chronicle of transformation. I have faced so many demons of my past. Old memories have come back to haunt me, reminding me that they are still here despite my previous efforts to shove them into the dusty corner at the back of my mind. Perhaps they’ll always linger, but at least I’m learning to befriend and not banish. Continue reading “2017.”

2018 To-do List.

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I’m not a fan of New Years Resolutions because 1) most of the time they don’t last and 2) you don’t have to wait till the new year to make a change. Having said that, I will write about my to-do list for 2018 – I’m a fan of those. (To be fair these are more-so reminders to myself of my core values in life.)

  1. Be present

This one’s been on my list for years now. It’s a tough one to crack in this hectic world that we live in. I’ve read so many stories of how people one day have this ‘ah ha’ moment and master mindfulness. I often envy their ability to ‘reach inwards’ or to ‘see the light’ while meditation. Meanwhile, I’ve been going at it on and off for 2-3 years with no avail. To be fair I haven’t really taken it that seriously until recent months. I used to just nod off or daydream during my 15 minutes of silence in the morning. Continue reading “2018 To-do List.”

Live For Yourself.

Think about this for a minute. Who are you living for? Your family? Your friends? Society? If the answer is anyone but yourself, why is that? I understand that I am privileged and don’t have to work to support my family. I fully appreciate the people who work their butts of to keep things afloat. But for those who do have a choice, reconsider the reasons behind the things you do. I’m not suggesting everyone to quit school or to quit their jobs and become a hermit like me. All I’m saying is that it’s time for us to live for ourselves. To put ourselves first. To chase our dreams. To live like a kid again. To do the things we’ve always wanted to do but never did because we were bound down by society’s rules. Continue reading “Live For Yourself.”